When you think
of Thanksgiving, what images immediately jump to mind? Turkey and all the fixings...green bean
casserole...freshly baked bread or rolls...pumpkin and minced pie...family and
friends. Perhaps some of you, like
my family, get up in the morning to watch the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade
and later will watch some football.
Prior to becoming a guest of the federal government, I spent 18
Thanksgivings at St. Anthony's Dining Room remembering all I have for which to
be thankful. (maybe a little triumphal?)
Thanksgiving evokes feelings of warmth and a moment to stop and take
stock of all we have been given. I
used to say it was the one holiday corporate America...capitalist
America...craven America could not commercialize. I might be wrong.
Recently, some of the biggest stores in the nation have announced they
will be opening their doors as early as 8pm on Thanksgiving. Ostensibly, their motivation is to
provide you with more opportunities to take advantage of Black Friday specials
and sales before Friday. They want
you to add to your pallet of warm Thanksgiving images, the especially
compelling and touching images of people in lines, pushing and shoving,
scrambling for the door-buster items before they are gone. Their new Norman Rockwell painting of
Thanksgiving has mom, dad or maybe older son and daughter wolfing down the
turkey...stuffing down the stuffing...cramming the pie into their pie holes and
running out the door in the afternoon, before family has even arrived yet, to
get to work in time to serve all the customers on Thanksgiving night. They want Thanksgiving's Kodak moment
to be grandma and grandpa using a shopping cart as a walker up and down crowded
aisles...mom and dad with children trailing behind them their eyes dancing with
delight at the overfilled shelves...kids looking forward to how fast they can
eat and get out of the house for the first toys of the holidays. Oh, and this is being done in your name
to enable you to get blockbuster value and to save, Save, SAVE. This is being done because you have
demanded all these stores be open on Thanksgiving because you can't pass up a
good deal. It's being done because
Toys 'R Us tried it, didn't get ridden out of town on a rail, made some extra
profit and now our culture demands everyone has to try it.
In stories about this trend, I saw a quote in which the person
said," ...hey, we are all looking for something to do after 8 o'clock on
Thanksgiving and what's better than shopping and getting a head start on the
holidays?" What's
better? You have to ask? Recently, Pope Francis I gave an
interview in which he talked about balance. He called on the Church to return to its roots and reject
the dominant culture's influence which places so much emphasis on profit,
money, consuming and using. He
reminded Catholics about how true happiness and satisfaction is not found in a
flat screen TV marked down 50%...not found with the latest smart phone or
tablet...not found in closets full of stuff ignored the day the holidays
end (you already know this is
true. A full life is one filled
with so much more than a huggable Elmo)
The ability to give thanks requires humility. This is a quality I lacked for a long time. I had earned everything I had. My job was cool and my wife smart and
accomplished. My home was
desirable and my children wonderful and healthy. We had cars and computers and enough to eat and wear. It was all due to me. It was all taken for granted and it
wasn't enough. I pushed management
for raises to show I was just as good as any other talent at the station not
because I needed the money, but for ego.
I was always looking for more and bigger opportunities. I was a product of my culture and I
bought it all hook, line and sinker.
I paid lip service at Thanksgiving, working away from my family, but in
the back of my mind I knew I deserved all I had worked for. Where I am today is a direct result of
that lack of humility and the inability to be able to say thanks.
I'm not alone. When stores
are opening on Thanksgiving...requiring employees to abandon their families on
Thanksgiving...covering the air waves with ads about all the stuff you can buy
on Thanksgiving...opening earlier and earlier (soon they will offer to feed you Thanksgiving dinner at the
store so you can eat and shop without losing a minute and they will be
considered innovators) When we aren't outraged or offended by this attempt to
commercialize something as pure as giving thanks, the Pope is right. We are out of balance.
I realize lots of people have to work on Thanksgiving. I worked 18 straight
Thanksgivings. Police and fire and
doctors and nurses and so many others have to work and they deserve our thanks
and admiration at their dedication.
However, the hope is they don't want to work. The hope is it is hard to be away from family or friends
that day. As a society, we want it
to be a burden to have to work on Thanksgiving...not because we want anyone to
suffer or to miss a day off, but because it's a day offered to us to stop and
take stock and add up all the ways we are blessed and it shouldn't be
missed. We want to be a people
more interested in assessing who we are and where we are and recognizing what
is of true value, than clamoring for the doors to open at 8 pm so we can get
the latest hot and trendy item.
We are told we are a divided nation. We are politically divided between progressives and
regressives...theists and atheists...male and female.young and old...north and
south...team red or team blue. We
don't need to be divided over Thanksgiving. There is common ground for us all. We can all agree giving thanks is good. We acknowledge the need for humility
and appreciation of those who are important in our lives. It is a good thing to spend time
together telling old stories and feeling a part of something bigger than our
individual egos. We can increase
the quality of our lives and society by being counter-culturalists. We can refuse to participate. This trend would end the moment stores
lost money or reputation. It's
that simple. It's in our
hands. So often we feel helpless
to effect change in our lives and culture. This time we control our own destiny.
The American bishops, and all other religious leaders, should ask people
to stay home, be with their families and give thanks for the richness of this
nation. They could remind
Americans about Matthew 25, and instead of shopping, find ways to help the
least of our brothers and sisters.
They should remind us of all we have to give thanks for and how lucky we
are to live in this land. Now that
would draw people and differentiate churches and religion from the culture at
large.
The ability to give thanks involves the character to admit we have
"earned" little of what we have. The ability to give thanks reminds us how lucky we are and
what is important in our lives. It
mandates an attitude of humility...a trait which is foreign to much of our
culture.
Will you shop 'till you drop on Thanksgiving? I hope you are too full of satisfaction and reflection to
have the time.